We often blame ourselves but are we really to blame? This sort of conditioning is generally way out of our control. As a child it can come from parents, bullies, teachers or even siblings. Worst of all, if it continues for a substantial period of time, we become used to it.
Clients are always asking for more self-confidence they say “I need more confidence”, but what is confidence? In the main what they are really saying is that I am less confident than I used to be, confidence starts to grow as children as long as we are nurtured, loved and live in safe surroundings. But for a large number of people this is not true.
It would seem that it does not matter if you’re the Prime Minister, or simply trying to lose weight or even stop smoking, the best support comes from those who offer practical help without making a fuss, it was reported by the Daily Mail with regard to a recent study in the U.S. journal Psychological Science.
If it hadn’t been for a hypnotherapy session when she was 17, Jade Williams, aka Sunday Girl, now 22, wouldn’t have conquered her fear of singing in public.
As a hypnotherapist and anxiety specialist for nearly 12 years now, I have come across the belief that “I’m not good enough” so many times that I’m fed up of writing it so in my client notes it’s just INGE syndrome.
I probably see this in 70 – 80% of my clients. The strange thing is most of my clients believe that it is just the way they were born. This is definitely not the case.